Feeling secure and comfortable

Allowing and encouraging relationships with others

The other person attempts to control and/or criticizes how you behave

Resolving conflicts fairly

Feeling as if there’s a lack of respect for your friends/family

Maintaining and respecting one’s self-esteem independent of the relationship 

There’s an unequal control of resources (food, money, home, car, etc.)

Having the option for privacy or personal space

Feeling worried when you disagree with the other person

Respecting each other’s boundaries

Feeling pressured to quit activities you usually/used to enjoy

Having activities apart from one another

Pressuring the other person into agreeing with you or changing to suit you better

Not feeling worried about potential violence in the relationship

Having to justify your actions (e.g., where you go, who you see)

Feeling as if you can express yourselves to one another without fear of consequences